How To Haggle Without Going Red / Giggling / Running Away.

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    poppleminster

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    Haggling is an art. Here are a few hints for you to peruse and ponder and places to try them out for yourself without wanting the ground to swallow you up with embarrasment.


    Simple rules for all forms of haggling:
    Don't be aggressive or unfriendly - you may win the haggle but getting the price down too low and they may cut back on the service they deliver or quality of goods. Haggle nicely and thyey'll be polite, remain comfortable withb the deal and you may do business with them again in future :)

    Types of haggling.
    I feel there is more to the haggle than just bickering over prices. There are types of haggling.

    Shop Till You Drop Haggling - you look round a shop, you see an almighty item of lushness (no, don't try to buy the cute sales assistant and definetly don't touch him / her please), You see it's price tag is either hidden or missing. Remember the rule 'if it's not priced then it's too expensive'? This was your parents way of stopping you have items you desired as a child so forget it and proceed to either find the price tag or ask.

    When asking for a price on something unmarked, the shop owner more often than not may assess how much you can afford to pay. Are you carrying a designer handbag? High heeled shoes? Jeans, wellies and a rainmac? It pays at this point to try and ensure that your appearance does not give away how rich / broke you actualy are. If they cannot tell, they'll place it mid-range price still leaving you room to haggle.

    So you take the item of lushness and look at it again but not too lovingly, if the shop owner thinks you really want it they will stick to their price knowing you'll find a way to pay it. So no declaring how amazing it is to find such a gem, just keep it casual. Ask calmly and politely what the best price they can do is then stay silent. Keep your purse in your hand but closed. If they offer you a fair price then pay. If they don't then open your purse, say you have £x and are happy to pay that cash if they can accept it but ensure this offer is reasonable or they may get irritated and throw you out of the shop. Smile and pay or give up and run away :D

    Places to try this are boot sales, independant shops, antique fares etc. I would not recomment attempting to haggle in Tesco after they've scanned your shopping, charity shops, high street stores or cash machines. You wont win. No matter how hard you try to convince the machine / checkout person to give you a discount or more money, they will look at you in disbelief and call for re-inforcements to throw you out. If you do decide to haggle in Tesco, please ensure it's near a cctv camera so that we can all watch you on the news later :)

    Service Haggling - This is when you want to book your flowers, your venue, your cars etc. The key here is to consider a few things about the way the price goes up when you mention the word 'wedding'. For example, if you book all the rooms at a posh hotel and book dinner in the evening, do they charge you a hire charge for the restaurant? If you order flowers to be delivered to a friend, do they charge more than usual to arrange the flowers? It's all about perception. At my venue, they charge a room hire charge, the room is the main restaurant. I am booking all the rooms in the hotel. If it were not me booking but other guests, would they be charged a hire charge for the portion of the restaurant they eat in? It's this and other little tricks that are your avenue to haggle fairly. I would suggest looking at packages the venue offers, go away and replace the items with things you want ideally and then put it to the venue that they reduce / match the price accordingly.

    Services are harder to haggle over purely because you are reliant on them to do a good job, if you annoy them, they can screw up your day. Be friendly but fair. Things like cakes and chair hire come under this catagory also but again remember - be fair and you have every chance of winning the haggle.



    Dress-me-up Haggling - So you've found the perfect dress. Ensure the shop assistant does not see you check the price tag before trying it so you can appear amazed later. To get a good deal on a dress you may be lucky but most likely, they will know you are in love with it and stick to a high profit margin level. I would recommend trying on almost every dress in the shop. Twice perhaps. Then go back to the one you want and see the ridiculous price tag, be a bit upset and threaten to try on all the others again with a miserable face. Do not be afraid to walk out of the shop with nothing, you can always go back later and say you've managed to get the extra cash to buy it. Offer a fair price (I do not consider 15% reduction to be unfair given the huge mark ups on wedding dresses). Say honestly it is your ideal dress and you will buy it if they can agree the price within your budget. Ask the best price they can offer as you only have £x to spend which has to include a veil / tiara / comb / shoes / champagne to celebrate the haggle. A good shop assistant will understand your plight and if your offer is realistic may accept. Also worth writing down from the label the make and model of the dress - don't ask the asistant as they give you a different ref number to stop you being able to look it up on the net! Then call round other places and ask them if they can agree your price. You'll be pleasantly suprised how successful this is!


    Points to remember:


    Be fair and realistic. Your offer should reflect the quality and quantity of the product or service. You'd be gutted to spend hours making something and be offered a few pounds.
    Be smiley and polite but firm - you make the offer, you shut up and wait for the response no matter how long it takes.
    Don't show how interested you are in an item.
    Do show how appreciative / interested you are with services such as flowers.
    Be middle-of-the-road with venues, say you have others to see and compare but do not under any circumstances tell them prices you've been offered or where you are viewing.
    Don't be afraid to fail. As long as you adhered to the above points, you'll be seen only as a savvy bride trying to sort her big day rather than a tight cowbag who doesn't appreciate the efforts / quality of the thing you're haggling over.
    Remember it' a haggle not a hustle!


    Enjoy :)
     
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    Popple I am so so glad you are back I have really missed you. You are so clever & know your stuff but you truely make me giggle non stop! Love the bit about doing it next to the cctv camera!!!! :) :D :) :) now stop or I am going to ruin my laptop if I keep snorting tea all over it!!! Only kidding cary on we all love a good laugh!!! xxx
     
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    Glad it made you smile :) I like to attempt to be useful every so often. Mostly when, like today for instance, I am meant to be doing something completely different and significantly more boring. I started this morning cleaning out my kitchen and emptying all the cupboards to become a huge mountain of precariously balanced crockery / food / odd stuff like plastic boxes with no lids. I had the grand idea that I would sort through my mountain of 'stuff' and arrange it into smaller mountains of things that should probably go together and then place these items back into the cupboards in an orderly fashion. I would then be left with a pile of stuff with no home which I can give away / bin / attempt to feed to the cat.

    Sadly, this task bored me rather quickly and I have since resorted to coming on here and wittering. I shall however gain the gusto needed to finish the task later. Probably about an hour before Ben gets home. It'll all go back as it is and I will think better of such grand ideas about creating an organised home :D

    I am also waiting for the washing machine repair man before I fill the house with washing. I have already had to go to Tesco for new knickers having exhausted my supply over the past three weeks. My house is an advert for Waynetta Slob at present due to the freezer, washing machine and hoover all breaking in one week. Oh and the icing on the cake is the water pipe inlet to the downstairs toilet is leaking. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrggggggggggggghhhhhhhhh. Being on here is most productive to my sanity but not my housewifely skills!
     
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    Housewifely skills are overrated. I'm currently dodging mine too. Having bigday breaks are what keep me sane, I bloomin hate cleaning, hence why Neil's side of the bedroom is lovely and organised and tidy and mine has random assortments of clothes, make up, books and other general crap all over the place. I'm a true lady.


    On a more relevant note, the haggling thing is useful. I am crap at it. I know I shouldn't be, as generally I'm a bit of a big gob who can't shut up, but I can't do it. My BM on the other hand is absolutely superb and is my chief dress-price-haggler. Amen for best friends.
     
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    Love it Popple, you always give us useful info in such a delightful style and as long as the door shuts who cares whats behind it! :)
     
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    Hope your repair man turned up popple!!! How bad that they all broke down at the same time!! Bad times!! Still that gives you the perfect excuse to not be able to do boring housework & sit in here making us laugh instead!!! :rolleyes: xxx
     
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    Repair man turned up but parts ordered from germany so hand washing for me until they sort it and to add to my week, I am now waiting for the plumber due to the inlet pipe to the downstairs loo dripping madly. Add the fridge in my mobile home breaking and the belt on the other hoover going, it's an expensive weekthat has just eaten my wedding budget for the next few months :D

    Stupid, stupid things. Oh and my laptop screen keeps flickering, the dishwasher door is sticking and the shower is making a horrid noise.

    I am going back to bed and it's a good job I have no chocolate or i'd eat it all. This will be funny sometime soon, probably after i've sold the currently pesting for treats children to pay for the wedding :rolleyes:
     
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    Selling the children for the wedding? Sounds like a plan! :D :)

    Love the haggling guide by the way!
     
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    Big hugs hunny hope everything gets sorted without costing a fortune! And after today I could sell my little blighter quite happily! Any offers???? :) xxx
     
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    I'll have him!!! x
     
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    Bless hope you get it all sorted soon - you'll have to employ some of your haggling techniques! :)

    Mrs G how could you possibly want to get rid of that little angel?
     
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