Not often that something really angers me as i'm a bit of a hippy but I am worried.\n\nMy fil was rushed to hospital by ambulance a while back and diagnosed with probable gall stones. They then ruled this out and diagnosed Pancreatitis. My mil is old fashioned and hates bothering the nurses and doctors so has spent the last few weeks sitting by his bed worried sick but in the belief that at some point somebody will bother telling her what is going on, she is terrified that if you make a fuss or be a pest they will be mean to her husband - to be fair to her, this did happen when she had my h2b so her fears are well founded. Unless we ask, nobody tells us about scans and results etc.\n\nI'm pretty well clued up on how hospitals work in that it's more about paperwork and business than understanding and having the time to work out the psychology of patients and their families but I have a few issues I am unsure how best to deal with.\n\nWhen admitted, I spoke to the doctor and explained that at the beginning of the year, fil had his diabetes medicine changed and that is the only lifestyle change. I asked him to look into if it could be a cause. They immediately ruled this out and told me they'd checked his medication. Within three days of being there he went from being really ill to being desperately ill. He began hallucinating, seeing and auditory hallucinations and was really frightened. He called me to ask if Ben was ok, genuinely scared something had happened, he saw children in his room, he gave information on patients that weren't in existence - we are not talking small issues here, this was really terrifying and the hospital had not even noticed. Mil only told me about it after a few days as she'd thought it was an effect of the morphine and would die down rather than get worse.\n\nHe had only one pillow, was on restricted fluid intake and no food for a week which wrecked havoc with the diabetes. He was put in isolation which made the hallucinations worse. All the time I was calling in and going in to be told he was doing fine. I suspected sceptacemia and was not convinced the morphine was causing the hallucinations as even days after it ended, he got worse and he'd barely had any in the first place as he was self-administering and was refusing to use it.\n\nLittle things like he was prescribed surgical stockings but they lay on his bed for days unworn before mil realised he was meant to be wearing them. As it's a pre-surgical ward, she'd assumed they were there only in case of an operation. The doctors have had no issues talking to me and have been lovely but every time the shift changes so does his diagnosis. At one point it went from being pancreatitis to a chest infection.\n\nAnyway... having watched him get worse and worse and weaker, they have now declared him anaemic and with suspected mrsa so back to isolation and all staff going near him wearing glove and aprons. They finally, finally realised the new diabetic medication can cause pancreatritis and since stopping it two days ago, his hallucinations and the various IV thing have gone. They wont let him out incase he needs a transfusion but what perplexes me is that they don't let him eat for a week (which was absolutely the right thing to do), but don't administer iron tablets, don't let him eat more than a snack a day and then say he can't go home due to anaemia and needing the loo lots. They have told him him may need a transfusion but how on earth can his iron level recover without food and iron tablets with some vitamin c to enure it's absorbed! Surely this is basic common sense?\n\nHe is so weak. What should have taken a week to respond to the right antibiotics and then further recouperation at home, has got worse and more complicated. They have ruled our pancreatic cancer and are working on the theory the pancreas was damaged by his diabetic medicine. I'm not entirely convinced they have this all right. I do agree the medicine is the most likely culprit but am very unahppy they were told of this possibility and ignored me. I am unhappy that when my mil finally got the courage to ask to speak to a doctor as she couldn't understand the nurse she was curtly asked "why" and I am unhappy that a terrified man that is normally razor sharp was reduced to a completely vulnerable state which culminated in him trying to escape the hospital in the middle of the night because they would not take the hallucinations seriously.\n\nThe nurses are very nice but none of it adds up. EIther it is pancreatitis or it isn't. He was already on antibiotics that kill MRSA so how did he then get it days after starting them? How can you keep someone in because they are anaemic yet do nothing to prevent it? He will most likely end up with a transfusion as he has no intake of iron unless they prescribe iron pills or let him eat more. \n\nHow much is too much? I want to contact the patient liason team and make an enquiry stating that I am concerned but as my mil is anxious that if we make a fuss they will be mean to fil, this may be a bad thing to do. I'm genuinely worried that they are not getting this right and evewry shift that changes, so does the story. Him trying to escape was discussed as a minor confused incident. It's not minor to a man that is petrified at the time and wanted to feel safe. Thankfullt the hallucinations have stopped but it should never have got that far, they should have listened rather than just assume it was the morphine that they knew he wan;t using!\n\nApologies for the rant. I'm so worried. He's in there, pale and weak and not getting better. After the pretty inevitable blood transfusion, then what? Their answers make no sense. What would yoiu do? Would you contact patient liason or leave it and hope it all improves. I don't want to get anyone into trouble, I just want consistency and a reasonable level of care with people telling him and mil what's happenning. He is currently back in the isolation room that he had all the hallucinations in. Clever move that for encouraging morale! I only hope that when we get him out, he wont remember all this.