Readings For A Civil Ceremony

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    I am having a civil ceremony, which means that there cannot be any religious or spiritual references in the readings and music.

    I'm always a bit stumped when it comes to thinking about readings, but found this yesterday and I think it's beautiful:

    "Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two." - from Captain Corelli's Mandolin

    :wub:

    When I googled for this, a lot of the time it said that the quote was by 'St Augustine' - I've not read Captain Corelli's Mandolin, any thoughts on why this is?

    I thought it would be a good idea to start a thread where people can post other ideas for readings :)

    If anyone else has found any other good readings, feel free to post them here! :lol:
     
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    I found this one - its an extract from Les Miserables which is suitable for civil ceremonies.
    "You can give without loving but you can never love without giving. The great acts of love are done by those who are habitually performing small acts of kindness. We pardon to the extent that we love. Love is knowing that even when you are alone, you will never be truly alone again. And great happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved. Loved for ourselves. And even loved in spite of ourselves."


    My h2b loves Dante's Divine Comedy so I would like an extract from it to be read during the church service.
    "
    The love of God, unutterable and perfect, flows into a pure soul the way that light rushes into a transparent object. The more love that it finds, the more it gives itself; so that, as we grow clear and open, the more complete the joy of heaven is. And the more souls who resonate together, the greater the intensity of their love, and, mirror-like, each soul reflects the other."



     
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    We weren't originally going to have a reading but our registrar suggested we should as our venue is so grand people would be expecting more than your average civil ceremony. So to make it truly personal, Richard's mum and dad are writing something and reading it together. I guess it's very fitting as where we got engaged is so important to their family and we were there with them when it happened!

    I do however love both of those readings! To be honest I haven't looked around at any because I didn't think we were going to include one. Also I didn't think anything that exists already could convey anything about us :) so sorry it's all about the cheese today. ONE MONTH TODAY! 30 days!!
     
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    Our Border collie puppy died on his 2nd birthday, two months before the wedding.
    I hadn't found a reading I liked up to that point, but one of the ladies here found this for me.

    Falling in love is like owning a dog
    an epithalamion by Taylor Mali
    www.taylormali.com

    First of all, it's a big responsibility,
    especially in a city like New York.
    So think long and hard before deciding on love.
    On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
    when you're walking down the street late at night
    and you have a leash on love
    ain't no one going to mess with you.
    Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
    Who knows what love could do in its own defense?

    On cold winter nights, love is warm.
    It lies between you and lives and breathes
    and makes funny noises.
    Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
    It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.

    Love doesn't like being left alone for long.
    But come home and love is always happy to see you.
    It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
    but you can never be mad at love for long.

    Is love good all the time? No! No!
    Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.

    Love makes messes.
    Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
    Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
    Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
    Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
    and swat love on the nose,
    not so much to cause pain,
    just to let love know Don't you ever do that again!

    Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
    Because love loves exercise.
    It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
    It pulls you in several different directions at once,
    or winds around and around you
    until you're all wound up and can't move.

    But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
    People who have nothing in common but love
    stop and talk to each other on the street.

    Throw things away and love will bring them back,
    again, and again, and again.
    But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
    And in return, love loves you and never stops.



    We played around with it a lttle to suit us better, but it really helped to make the ceremony more personal.
     
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    I let my dad choose the reading... I may regret it depending on what he chooses!

    I think at the moment he is going with the owl and the pussycat which is quite witty as I'd already chosen a reading for the person marrying us to read which is about an owl, they may think we have an owl fettish... I think it is called No Mistake by Martha Sims although I might have just invented that in my head.
     
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    the captain corelli's mandolin one is beautiful but it's used a lot... I've only been to three weddings (in different parts of the country with entirely unconected groups of people) and it featured at every one... Our celebrant gave us loads of ides and poems/readings, I'll try and dig the list out :(
     
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    OOOOOK, a long list,! It's really good though, fifty-odd readings and poems! here is what we have selected;

    For Better, For Worse "It is not enough to love passionately: you must also love well. A passionate love is good doubtless, but a beautiful love is better. May you have as much strength as gentleness; may it lack nothing, not even forbearance, and let even a little compassion be mingled with it ….. you are human and, because of this, capable of much suffering. If then something of compassion does not enter into the feelings will not always befit all the circumstances of your life together; they will be like festive robes that will not shield you from wind and rain. We love truly only those we love even in their weakness and their poverty. To forbear, to forgive, to console – that alone is the science of love. " Anatole France

    These I Can Promise



    I cannot promise you a life of sunshine;
    I cannot promise riches, wealth or gold;
    I cannot promise you an easy pathway
    that leads away from change or growing old.



    But I can promise all my heart’s devotion;
    A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow;
    A love that’s ever true and ever growing;
    A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow. Mark Twain



    A quote from the film ‘Shall we dance?’



    We need a witness to our lives. There are a billion people on the planet...I mean, what does anyone’s life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything - the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You’re saying, your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.
    Now comes the knitting, the tying, entwining into one, Mysterious involvement of two, whole, separate people Into something altogether strange and changing, new and lovely. Nothing can ever be, we will never be, the same again: Not merged into each other irrevocably, but rather From now on we go the same way, in the same direction, Agreeing not to leave each other lonely or discouraged, or behind.
    I will do my best to keep my promises, to treasure and to keep you warm; And we will make our wide bed beneath the bright And ragged quilt of all the yesterdays that make us who we are, The strengths and frailties we each bring to this marriage, And we will be rich indeed. Rowena Edlin-White

    We are closing with a celtic blessing;

    Peace of the running water to you,
    Peace of the flowing air to you,
    Peace of the quiet earth to you,
    Peace of the shining stars to you,
    and the love and the care from us all to you.


    if you want a copy of all of them, then send me a message!
     
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    Bloody hell, I must be hormonal today, I'm all teary-eyed now after reading those! :(
     
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    Those are lovely! :(

    It's a shame about the Captain Correli's Mandolin one - I had no idea it was that popular. I hope everyone at my wedding hasn't heard it a million times before!!
     
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    We've decided on the following reading for Steve's brother (who is one of the best men) to read: (He'd probably have a heart attack if it was any longer)
    THE DAY


    May this be the start of a happy new life
    that’s full of special moments to share

    May this be the first of your dreams come true
    and of hope that will always be there

    May this be the start of a lifetime of trust
    and of caring that’s just now begun

    May today be a day that you'll always remember
    the day when your hearts become one...
     
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    Loving the mark twain one... might have to steal it
     
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    We are getting married in a church but going to have two readings. One not religious and one religious... This is our none religious one!

    The lovely love story by edward monkton

    The fierce Dinosaur was trapped inside his cage of ice.
    Although it was cold he was happy in there. It was, after all, his cage.
    Then along came the Lovely Other Dinosaur.
    The Lovely Other Dinosaur melted the Dinosaur’s cage with kind words and loving thoughts.


    I like this Dinosaur thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur.
    Although he is fierce he is also tender and he is funny.
    He is also quite clever though I will not tell him this for now.


    I like this Lovely Other Dinosaur, thought the Dinosaur.
    She is beautiful and she is different and she smells so nice.
    She is also a free spirit which is a quality I much admire in a dinosaur.


    But he can be so distant and so peculiar at times, thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur.
    He is also overly fond of things.
    Are all Dinosaurs so overly fond of things?


    But her mind skips from here to there so quickly thought the Dinosaur.
    She is also uncommonly keen on shopping.
    Are all Lovely Other Dinosaurs so uncommonly keen on shopping?


    I will forgive his peculiarity and his concern for things, thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur.
    For they are part of what makes him a richly charactered individual.


    I will forgive her skipping mind and her fondness for shopping, thought the Dinosaur.
    For she fills our life with beautiful thoughts and wonderful surprises. Besides,
    I am not unkeen on shopping either.


    Now the Dinosaur and the Lovely Other Dinosaur are old.
    Look at them.
    Together they stand on the hill telling each other stories and feeling the warmth of the sun on their backs.


    And that, my friends, is how it is with love.
    Let us all be Dinosaurs and Lovely Other Dinosaurs together.
    For the sun is warm.
    And the world is a beautiful place


    ...................................................................................................
     
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    That's brilliant! I love Edward Monkton :D
     
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    I personally love this one by George Eliot


    To Be One With Each Other
    What greater thing is there for two human souls
    than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen
    each other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow,
    to share with each other in all gladness,
    to be one with each other in the
    silent unspoken memories? :)
     
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    My H2B has chosen this one. What do ya think?

    To the celestial, and my soul's idol, the most beautified Ophelia:

    Doubt thou the stars are fire;
    Doubt thou the sun doth move;
    Doubt truth to be a liar;
    But never doubt, I love.


    O dear Ophelia, I am ill at these numbers; I have not art to reckon
    my groans; but that I love thee best, O most best, believe it! Adieu.
     
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    I like it - is there any reason he picked it or was he just looking for a reading and stumbled across it? I note you haven't said whether you like it or not...

    Maybe leave the 'Adieu' off the end :rolleyes:
     
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    I love the idea of readings, neither of us are religious but we have a close group of friends and getting them up to do readings will mean a lot,
     
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    We've had sooo much trouble with ours. The two people that wanted to do the readings are not happy with what we want so we are having to back-down a bit and have what they want, but, in order to get the ones we want, we simply chose two more people whom we knew would happily read what we actually want! How crazy is that?

    So we have a very mainstream reading that probbaly most have heard of, one as yet undecided and two from Ogden Nash's Notes for a Student Husband which I love. I shall post them up...

    Tin Wedding Whistle

    Though you know it anyhow
    Listen to me, darling, now,
    Proving what I need not prove
    How I know I love you, love.
    Near and far, near and far,
    I am happy where you are;
    Likewise I have never larnt
    How to be it where you aren't.
    Far and wide, far and wide,
    I can walk with you beside;
    Furthermore, I tell you what,
    I sit and sulk where you are not.
    Visitors remark my frown
    Where you're upstairs and I am down,
    Yes, and I'm afraid I pout
    When I'm indoors and you are out;
    But how contentedly I view
    Any room containing you.
    In fact I care not where you be,
    Just as long as it's with me.
    In all your absences I glimpse
    Fire and flood and trolls and imps.
    Is your train a minute slothful?
    I goad the stationmaster wrothful.
    When with friends to bridge you drive
    I never know if you're alive,
    And when you linger late in shops
    I long to telephone the cops.
    Yet how worth the waiting for,
    To see you coming through the door.
    Somehow, I can be complacent
    Never but with you adjacent.
    Near and far, near and far,
    I am happy where you are;
    Likewise I have never larnt
    How to be it where you aren't.
    Then grudge me not my fond endeavor,
    To hold you in my sight forever;
    Let none, not even you, disparage
    Such a valid reason for a marriage.

    and

    To My Valentine

    More than a catbird hates a cat,
    Or a criminal hates a clue,
    Or the Axis hates the United States,
    That's how much I love you.

    I love you more than a duck can swim,
    And more than a grapefruit squirts,
    I love you more than a gin rummy is a bore,
    And more than a toothache hurts.

    As a shipwrecked sailor hates the sea,
    Or a juggler hates a shove,
    As a hostess detests unexpected guests,
    That's how much you I love.

    I love you more than a wasp can sting,
    And more than the subway jerks,
    I love you as much as a beggar needs a crutch,
    And more than a hangnail irks.

    I swear to you by the stars above,
    And below, if such there be,
    As the High Court loathes perjurious oathes,
    That's how you're loved by me.
     
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    I really like that first reading, where did you find it?
     
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    It was in an old paperback book we have as part of a set written by Ogden Nash. He wrote one for how to behave in family situations and several others. Both of the above were from Notes For a Student Husband and were written and published in the 1920's. I love Ogden Nash, he tells it as it is from outside the box.
     
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